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8 Communication Skills To Improve Your Relationships

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8 Communication Skills To Improve Your Relationships

8 Communication Skills To Improve Your Relationships

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Last Updated on February 10, 2021 by Lori Geurin

Good communication skills are vitally important in many areas of life. Yet, they’re sometimes neglected. When you upgrade your communication skills it’ll enhance your relationships and reduce feelings of stress and anxiety. Here are 8 ways to improve your communication skills and enrich your life.

Whether you’re at the office with co-workers, socializing with friends, or at home with your spouse and family, learning how to communicate is crucial for developing good relationships. And, whether you’re a beginner with room for improvement or a communication pro, below are 8 actionable steps you can take to develop impressive communication skills.

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8 Ways To Improve Communication Skills

1. Listening is key.

Do you remember Verizon’s ‘Can you hear me now?’ ad campaign?

It turns out there’s a big difference between hearing and listening. Hearing happens, “with or without your consent.” Hearing is passive and doesn’t need any effort on your part.

But, listening requires concentration and attention. You must consciously choose to listen.

Everyone wants to know they’re being heard. So really listen to what the other person is saying without interrupting.

And without formulating a response in your head.

Barking Up The Wrong Tree‘s author, Eric Barker outlines the basics of active listening:

  • “Listen to what they say. Don’t interrupt, disagree, or “evaluate.”
  • ”Nod your head, and make brief acknowledging comments like “yes” and “uh-huh.”
  • ”Without being awkward, repeat back the gist of what they just said, from their frame of reference.”
  • “Inquire. Ask questions that show you’ve been paying attention and that move the discussion forward (1).”

(Wanting to learn more about being a better communicator? Robin Roberts teaches effective and authentic communication in her exceptional online MasterClass.)

2. Get rid of distractions.

Put down your cell phone, shut your laptop, turn off the T.V., or whatever it is that might distract you from giving the other person your undivided attention.

This not only helps you pay better attention but it shows the other person you’re focused on them and what they have to say.

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Using open body language shows that you’re approachable. Keep your palms up and arms and legs uncrossed.

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3. Pay attention to your body language.

Body language and facial expressions play a huge role in communication so it’s important to be aware of how these influence your message and how you’re coming across to the other person.

Avoid sending out negative signals through negative body language such as tapping your feet, avoiding eye contact, and crossing your arms.

Instead, use open body language. Keep your arms uncrossed with palms up. Maintain good eye contact. And smile (when appropriate). This positive body language sends the message that you’re approachable and interested in what the other person has to say.

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4. Consider who you’re talking to.

For example, if you’re talking to your best friend it’s fine to use informal language, including slang.

If you’re a twin, you may enjoy “twin talk” with your identical sibling. No one else will understand what you’re saying but you two will, and that’s all that matters.

And if you’re conversing with your boss, it’s generally best to keep that in mind too. To sum up this tip, simply try to keep the other person’s perspective in mind.

Keep reading for one of the best ways to improve your communication skills…

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5. Ask questions and paraphrase.

So I’ve been told I ask a lot of questions.

(I’ve also heard curiosity killed the cat. You can draw your own conclusions from that.)

Ask questions to clarify your understanding of what the other person said.

Also, paraphrasing is a great tool to use to show the other person that you’re really listening to them. Here’s an example: “So Sam, what I’m hearing you say is that you’d prefer to go to the conference next week?”

#therearenostupidquestions

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6. Don’t finish people’s sentences for them.

I know it can be tempting to *help people when they’re struggling for a word or thought, but please avoid this temptation.

I admit I’ve done this before, usually thinking I’m being helpful, but simply put, it’s just not.

When you finish another person’s sentence, you’re stealing power from them in the conversation by taking over. This never feels good or garners either of you the respect you want.

7. Avoid being judgmental.

Some conversations are fun and easy. Often this is because we’re comfortable, perhaps because we know the other person or have things in common.

But even the most difficult conversations can have successful resolutions.

It’s vital to put aside judgment and criticism about the other person if we want to be good communicators so try to keep this in mind any time you’re in a conversation.

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8. Be assertive and set boundaries.

Developing an assertive communication style has many benefits, especially when it comes to your health. According to www.anxietybc.com, assertive communication:

“can help you to relate to others more genuinely, with less anxiety and resentment. It also gives you more control over your life and reduces feelings of helplessness. Furthermore, it allows OTHER people the right to live their lives.”

Assertiveness is based on mutual respect, which is an essential skill when communicating.

It’s also important to keep in mind that assertiveness is completely different from aggressiveness (or passive aggression).  The aim of aggressive behavior is to control and dominate others.

On the other hand, AnxietyBC points out assertive behavior is:

“the honest expression of one’s own needs, wants and feelings, while respecting those of the other person. When you communicate assertively, your manner is non-threatening and non-judgmental, and you take responsibility for your own actions.”

According to The Mayo Clinic, learning to be more assertive is a healthy skill that can help you control feelings of anger and stress while boosting your self-respect.

Assertiveness is a good thing!

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Summary: How To Improve Communication Skills

Learning and implementing effective communication skills can help you prosper in life. Knowing how to effectively communicate is a crucial part of improving your relationships at work and with friends and family.

Plus, having these skills can help you enjoy better health, less stress, and more confidence.

What are your tips for improving communication?

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  • Iki
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    August 18, 2019 at 3:34 AM

    I am just trying to have a read everyday, and I am grateful because I found this article. Thank you

    • Lori Geurin
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      August 21, 2019 at 4:25 PM

      What a great way to improve yourself and expand your mind! I hope you found this inspirational and helpful. Thank you so much!

  • kara
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    August 16, 2019 at 9:59 AM

    These are such wonderful tips! I def think theres always room for improvement!

    • Lori Geurin
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      August 21, 2019 at 4:27 PM

      Thank you Kara. I absolutely agree! What is life without learning and growing, right?

  • Angela
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    August 16, 2019 at 9:52 AM

    These are all such great tips! I need to work on the listening piece for sure!!

    • Lori Geurin
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      August 21, 2019 at 4:29 PM

      I hear you Angela and you’re not alone. This is something so many of us could benefit from working on, myself included! Thanks!

  • Erin
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    August 15, 2019 at 9:47 AM

    The last tip is so powerful, but it is the probably the hardest tip to implement into one’s own communication style. Expanding on how to communicate assertively would be a great follow-up post to this one!

    • Lori Geurin
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      August 21, 2019 at 4:37 PM

      It’s definitely the hardest one for me to implement, so I would agree with you here. There are a couple of people in my life who seem to have this one down pat though, lol. I should probably take some lessons from them on being more assertive but it’s definitely something I’m working on.

      I love your blog post suggestion and I’m definitely adding this to my blogging calendar. Thanks so much, Erin!

  • Christa
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    August 15, 2019 at 9:42 AM

    These are all such wonderful suggestions – and all ones I need to work on. I have the terrible habit of interrupting. I’ve been working so hard to allow others to finish their thought and be present in listening but it’s so hard to change bad habits!

    • Lori Geurin
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      August 21, 2019 at 4:34 PM

      Thank you so much for sharing this, Christa! It sounds like you’re doing great! More power to you for recognizing changes in your life that you want to make and making them happen. #inspiration

  • Catherine @ To & Fro Fam
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    August 14, 2019 at 12:08 PM

    I knew there’s a difference between hearing and listening, but I’d never defined it in quite the same way you did hear. I love that. Thank you for sharing these tips!

    • Lori Geurin
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      August 14, 2019 at 12:22 PM

      Hey there, Catherine, thanks!

  • Amanda Rosson
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    September 19, 2017 at 11:35 AM

    Great tips, Lori! Communicating effectively is so vital in our everyday lives! I had never heard the one about not finishing others’ sentences before but it makes sense, and I will definitely be more conscious about it now!

    • Lori Geurin
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      September 20, 2017 at 4:54 AM

      Hey Amanda, Thanks!

  • AnnMarie John
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    September 17, 2017 at 8:11 PM

    These are wonderful. My mom has always reminded me about listening, because it’s really part of communicating well. I think these are all important aspects as well.

    • Lori Geurin
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      September 18, 2017 at 9:54 AM

      Thanks, AnnMarie! Your mom sounds like a wise lady!

  • Cat
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    September 17, 2017 at 8:04 AM

    I will admit, I do struggle with finishing other people’s sentences. I have even had a couple of really honest friends tell me I do it, too. I try to make a really conscious effort to hold my tongue until they are done talking.

    • Lori Geurin
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      September 18, 2017 at 10:07 AM

      Hey Cat, Thanks for being real!

      We all have communication issues from time to time, myself included. It sounds like you’ve been able to take your friends input and grow from it…what a great example for us all!

  • Arlene
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    September 16, 2017 at 3:34 PM

    I love this! The paraphrasing tip is good because it lets the person know you have truly heard what they said.

    • Lori Geurin
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      September 16, 2017 at 4:17 PM

      Hi Arlene, Thanks so much!

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